Day 18-Adults Vs Children
Sometimes I feel that the life of a child is pretty tough.
Children are constantly under surveillance (especially by other adults).
Taking your child out to a friend's house/party/an event is such a nightmare because you are constantly worrying about how this child is going to behave or whether the people are going to comment behind your back about your child(which they definitely will)
Having said it, I do not recall meeting any child(8 years plus) who has absolutely immaculate manners . who speaks confidently without any attitude, who eats most things(vegetables i.e.), who remains calm while the adults have their conversation and who says the right things at the right time. But these are our expectations out of them..Yes?
Well...these children are actually trying to understand their role in the society and are figuring out the whole mingling/conversing thing. But do we adults understand this? Well am afraid not
For the starters , when children are young, we do not take them out to meet people. We are extremely sensitive about the kind of comments our relatives would make at the child's "bad upbringing".So what do we do? Keep children (over)protected and shielded. Once they can eat their own food and manage other embarrassing habits by themselves, we suddenly expose them to parties and events and strangers and expect them to behave perfectly. Is that very reasonable? I wonder!
I know of a lot of people who gossiped(ruthlessly) about others' children (about what kind of brats they are) and ended up with their own children as bad as or even worse than them...so Guys...what goes around comes around...maybe we should refrain from judging children..
Let us give our children multiple opportunities to mix and mingle with various kinds of people and please please lets have patience!We weren't any better when we were younger..Well..many of us aren't..even now!
Children are constantly under surveillance (especially by other adults).
Taking your child out to a friend's house/party/an event is such a nightmare because you are constantly worrying about how this child is going to behave or whether the people are going to comment behind your back about your child(which they definitely will)
Having said it, I do not recall meeting any child(8 years plus) who has absolutely immaculate manners . who speaks confidently without any attitude, who eats most things(vegetables i.e.), who remains calm while the adults have their conversation and who says the right things at the right time. But these are our expectations out of them..Yes?
Well...these children are actually trying to understand their role in the society and are figuring out the whole mingling/conversing thing. But do we adults understand this? Well am afraid not
For the starters , when children are young, we do not take them out to meet people. We are extremely sensitive about the kind of comments our relatives would make at the child's "bad upbringing".So what do we do? Keep children (over)protected and shielded. Once they can eat their own food and manage other embarrassing habits by themselves, we suddenly expose them to parties and events and strangers and expect them to behave perfectly. Is that very reasonable? I wonder!
I know of a lot of people who gossiped(ruthlessly) about others' children (about what kind of brats they are) and ended up with their own children as bad as or even worse than them...so Guys...what goes around comes around...maybe we should refrain from judging children..
Let us give our children multiple opportunities to mix and mingle with various kinds of people and please please lets have patience!We weren't any better when we were younger..Well..many of us aren't..even now!
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