Day 21-A piece of advice to self

Being the youngest in the family comes with its share of problems-apart from being (over)protected and handed down things of elders(a new dress is probably something you would get only for birthdays), there is a big big problem that I faced ...and this later on became so ingrained in my system that it became the way of life.
That is the dreaded word/illness called "Comparison"
As a child I remember being constantly compared-intentions might have been good-to set higher standards and shake the laziness off me, but I started believing that ..that is the way to live..
Constantly being compared to siblings..then with cousins, neighbours, friends, the girl from the US who visits my neighbours, the girl on TV, the girl in the book, the teacher's daughter, teacher's friend's daughter, teacher's brother's daughter..There was no end to this comparison
As I grew up, I did the same thing..
I compared myself to my friends-Where were they working? How much money did they make? What kind of a husband did each one have?Did they have children early?...
And slowly others started dictating the way I should live my life.

She posted something on Facebook, I should too
She has a high flying job in a corporate..I totally need the same kind of job
She has straightened her hair, I must too(to look cool like her)

Later on this hopeless illness knew no bounds...as I started comparing myself to people I didn't even know..Some girl in the supermarket, Some woman driving a car on the road, some teenager reading a book...uffff

This realisation, that I am comparing myself constantly somebody else, came, when every single post on Facebook irritated me..
Why are people so happy? Why do people have perfect lives(and I don't)? Why is it that everybody except me is leading a good life?
Well, it took me a long time to realise that people choose to show their happiness, and that doesn't mean they have a perfect life. Everyone has their share of struggles and troubles that we probably don't even know about.
So here I am today, talking to myself and giving some advice that could potentially transform my life and do away with any negativity whatsoever.
Live your life not somebody else's
Look into yourself and not outside
Customise the rules for your life-You are unique
Everyone has a story- Write your own story
Thank you Universe for invaluable lessons and hope even in tumultuous times! <3

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