Day 42- Me and We

We often complain about the fact that we don't live in clean places-our roads, streets, toilets are not clean. We throw garbage everywhere, we spit and pee on the road, we don't care for the cleanliness of the toilets. We complain all the time. We say that our folks do not have self discipline.When is this self discipline actually taught?

We watch an accident on road and people minding their own business and not bothering to help. What do we say? There is no cohesion in the society..people have become ruthless and heartless. No?
How do you bring out the sense of community and cohesion in people?

Lets say you are eating an ice-cream and your child picks the cherry on your ice-cream and eats it up. We usually discount this -and attribute it to the fact that it is natural for the child to do it. We not only don't correct the child, but rather enjoy it. We believe that self discipline is not meant for the young , and that with age, it would be naturally developed. Is that true? .
Lets say a little child wants to urinate . Do you allow him to go ahead and do it wherever he is , and whoever he is with? Well, after the child has been toilet trained, you do urge him to use the toilet. Don't you?

Consider this-
Say there are a group of children working/playing and one child spills water. What do we do as adults? We urge the same child to clean the mess he made. If another child volunteers(and children usually do) what do we say? "It is his mess, so let him clean it". It is ingrained in us since very young that the person who messes up ONLY must make amends.
As we grow up , there is only one statement we keep saying all the time "It is not my fault..Why should I do it?"

Imagine an environment where :
children have self discipline ingrained in their beings so much that they do not need others to curtail their movement/ freedom because they are unable to hold themselves
children help each other because it is "natural" for them to do so, arising from a sense of "belonging" together. 

Wouldn't the world be a better place to live in?



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