Musings of an inconsistent mind

I love airports. Initially it was the glam and the charm and the sparkle that excited me. But with more travel, the experiences in the airport have taught me a lot of things . What are your most favourite aspects of the airport? Mine are as below 1. Washrooms-someone to constantly clean..to take care of your needs. The absolutely clean washrooms in (most) airports are such happy places 2. Food- Something about the airport food despite it being so ridiculously expensive...it is just so appetising...the practical yet absolute clean way in which piping hot food is presented is definitely a luxury I enjoy 3. People-there is no better pastime than watching the so many different people around you-invariably someone will try to push you to get into the queue, all of us have experienced the many nudged with the trolley by the blessed person standing behind us in the queue, someone losing their way, someone crying, someone always anxious..oh so many different people 4. Airports teach you t...

Dog lovers please (don't) read this post Well..I know the emotion of the people who love their pets to bits...love to cuddle...touch..be licked...etc.etc.etc...I can completely accept it when people say that dogs are the most loyal, kind companions and that they deserve to be treated well.. But let me present another perspective There are a few people who fear/repel the fur and the saliva and the force and the touch of certain creatures(before you roll your eyes and start swearing, let me tell you this includes humans too).  Disclosure: I am one such person. I am not very comfortable with too much physical proximity even with human beings of either gender..so animals is just a no no. This includes birds, furry animals, soft animals...rough skinned animals...you name it. Being touched by them is like an  invasion of personal Equilateral triangle space.Full disclosure: I am petrified of any creature moving esp...

One of the most important lessons I learnt in life is the "art of follow up is as or more important than the art of selling". Well, the belief here is that people are extremely busy with their lives(read this as complete disregard for others' time or priorities) and if you want to get your work done..always "follow up". The reason why most "successful" sales people send a "thanks note" after a call as if subtly hinting "give me that goddamned purchase order or I am going to nag you everyday" and that is precisely what you are taught to do..nag nag nag.. This follow up needs to be done by everybody for everything ....sometimes nicely...sometimes for reminders..sometimes as "just thought of you...also..."...so many numerous ways.... You submit a change request..follow up You deposited a cheque...follow up You applied for visa...follow up You placed an order for something...follow up You ordered for something in a rest...

There is one man a woman always has high hopes about-he is the blessed "hair stylist"..the man who she will trust her life...or hair with. We women have certain OCD habits- the most common one being  brushing one's teeth before going to the dentist..and the other one, is carrying a picture of some Hollywood celebrity with the most gorgeous (made up...unreal) hair to the stylist and asking him to create the same cut/colour. I mean...this is some level of confidence man! I met my short term God/saviour today..the one who could give me a beautiful hair do...that would make heads turn and people gape...(until the first wash at home..after which the hair is USUALLY worse than before). Nevertheless we women have no problem indulging in the sweet words of the blessed man .. It is usually a trance that one gets into...You start off with the most authoritative tone..showing pictures and defining exactly what you want ..even using the right jargons... But then, that angel smil...

I have heard parents utter one sentence again and again..when the topic of alternate education comes up. "There is nothing wrong with the traditional educational system.Look at us..we have survived and done well in life..." Well...I completely agree..our children are indeed turning out to be like us. The problem with our generation is that we live in a perpetual state of denial..we think we are a smart gen and our children should be like us. The day we start identifying that the problem is with our goddamned generation and the next generation shouldn't be like us, is when we are going to create a better future. A few things that our children say ...Should remind us of ourselves. These should make our antennae go up and realise that we have infected the next gen. 1. "Why should I study history?"(dude..we are doomed when the child says this) 2. "Is this nice?" -That state of constantly seeking approval...clear sign of lack of individuality and a ...

You know when you think of something (you think is ) so profound and all of a sudden the voice inside you asks.."yeah...so?"....LOL..its an epic fail moment. Anyway I had one such thought today. I know a man...born with a silver spoon..raised in affluence and money and accomplishments and everything glossy and happy. He grew up and tasted his first failure. He said this would pass and things would go well for him. Well, it didn't. He had everything one day and nothing in another....He was a man of principles..he didn't lie or swear..or think harm forget inflicting it on someone...He was greatly misunderstood by his own family...He had just one dream in life..to go abroad...and he died without realising his dream...Success never seemed to like him... This was just one man... How many people are we surrounded by? This world is made of 7.5 billion people...which means...7.5 billion stories to tell...7.5 billion minds with innumerable complexities... When you cross ...

I had a colleague who was a very NICE person..she would say the kindest of words in the sweetest of tone and never once was she politically incorrect. But I would always run away from her. Her kindness hurt me. He sweetness would always kindle a sense of insecurity and insufficiency that I didn't know existed in my life. Of late,thanks to the media and the many "movements", everything around me in nice and glossy and "CORRECT" but there is something amiss. I am unable to identify fake from real.This fairness has become embedded in our ecosystem so much that once in a while..."wrong" statements even if for sensation soothes and reassures. One of those ideas that has completely infected our system ..is this idea of feminism.To believe that women are superior..that men are meant to be ill treated...and that anything a woman does is right..... is not feminism..it is still chauvinism(in my honest opinion). To separate achievement and potential from gende...

India-A land of a million beliefs and a trillion rituals. If there is one thing that this nation is special about-it is our belief or our temples. Our people have a set pattern while visiting the temple. There is a way in which each deity is prayed to. Going to the temple is for "good" people. Going to the temple will give you everything you want. It is the place where you can pretty much dissolve all your sins in. Technically one must feel light, hopeful, peaceful and happy while returning from the temple, but it is seldom that way. It is the place where equality doesn't exist for sure. A separate line for "special Dharshan" aka "queue for rich people"because rich people deserve to see GOD earlier/sooner/more comfortably. Counters to sell "offerings"-customised for your problem which usually is for money, marriage, child or health. Temples are the place where MAXIMUM  judgement happens. The priest will judge you by how you look, how pio...

The problem about this love is that ..you never can say when you will fall out...as much as you can't say when you fall in love. The wise person recognises this and does SMART things in the marriage. I completely understand that when you are in a marriage/love you tend to give your everything...invest all of your energy and time and money and emotion ..because after all..one can't be cautious when it comes to love.. Understand understand.But one also needs to consider that no matter how beautiful companionship is..YOU come before him/her.(if you are the filmy types who doesn't agree with this statement, stop reading this right now...close the window...and watch Dil se..Nice songs in that movie btw) Anyway... Few things you must and must not do in marriage especially when it comes to finances Do NOT Give up your career for the sake of love and then feel sorry after you have missed the train Throw in allll your salary into running the household/mortgage of the house wit...

Let me first begin by saying that Marriage is a gamble. It may or may not click no matter how smart you are. So chill and pray . But that doesn't mean that you should be all "Bollywood types" waiting to hear violins while you see a person's photograph . I mean spark does happen..it is true..give it some weightage but don't be carried away. Some things you must consider in an arranged marriage(it is insane that such marriages happen even now..but anyway...) 1. Have clarity on what your parents are looking for while searching for the right one.This is extremely important to make sure you are not blind to a few things 2. Give the person a fair chance. Photograph doesn't say much...well the max u see is how well groomed he/she is..and of course their choice of clothes 3. Go on a date..like a proper date....Plan...and prepare for it..If you are a girl..see how the man is handling the entire thing and how courteous he is throughout the process. If you are a man...

I remember the first time my heart was broken. It was the most excruciating feeling and I thought life was over..love was over! Weeping myself to sleep...hopelessness...bitterness...lack of interest in life...were few of the side effects(relate to all this?) After a while...like a breeze that causes the bud to blossom..my heart blossomed...It was broken again though...but by then I had realised that there is hope and I don't have to think of ending my life (LOL) Most of us have experienced this feeling. Haven't we fallen in and fallen out of love?And fallen again? What is the lesson? I ask myself.. Love is a worthy goal to have...but to be adamant about where you want to get that love from is ignorance.. often leading to disappointment. One needs to always prepare their heart to receive love because we know not where we are going to receive it from. Love will come in form of a lover/child/caretaker/friend/neighbour/doctor/any random person who may just arrive in your l...

We humans are very strange....while we are completely aware of the fact that our life is limited we still plan everything in life...and blame the entire universe..God..or whatever we call it for not making it happen. Strange isn't it? Of the many many emotions I have experienced(I do experience a million of them in any given point in time) what is the strongest..I ask myself? While I would love to say Love, Strength, beauty or any of the synonyms, it actually is FEAR..Fear of animals..nature..humans..situations..illness...bad reputation..branding...so much fear in such a short life span. One part of me is that philosophical mature person who keeps nagging me to live in the moment..live for myself..live the way I want to live...but the demon of fear engulfs all of that and shuts the doors to peace and positivity. Is overcoming fear a conscious effort I wonder! Many a times I have feared situations which didn't even happen or even if it did..passed like a cloud...but no matte...

It is day 66 and still no-one has read my blogposts..sometimes I feel this is like my private space ..by me for me..only..it is on a cloud.. Anyway... The greatest resource that is available for humans is the resource called "humans". But this is something that we simply take for granted or approach from a mere business/official perspective. They usually ask.."who will cry when I die" ..the ultimate goal for most of us is to be able to have earned the trust of atleast a few who will cry when we die. Wow! When I think about my life..I am surprised to notice that most things that I do, even mundane and habitual are those which have been influenced by certain people. Sometimes I feel that there is nothing original about me. But, am sure that most people think the same way and a few of them have imbibed certain things from us. Hearing or seeing yourself in another person is possibly the greatest form of flattery. Don't you think? Few come into our life as les...

Our generation has a peculiar problem of swinging between extremes . One group of the society considers girl children as a shame and engage in female infanticide and another group-the educated, cultured, modern group is the exact opposite. They tell their girls to be aggressive and treat the males in the society BADLY. I am not in agreement with both and hope for a balance where the men and the women in the society get their due credit. So, what is it that we need to teach our girls? 1.  Education is prime-beauty, money and fame come next only 2. A woman is strong   and has high potential –there is no such thing as a “Job meant for a man” and “a job meant for a woman”. 3.Tears are not weapons. To use them like that is cheap, dangerous and wont work all the time 4. Financial independence is important, but emotional independence is critical 5. Treat a man with respect.PERIOD. 6. Never raise your voice…your look should do it… 7. Size of breasts ..size of hips d...